Lung Cancer – Chapter 7 Living With Cancer

Sometimes being diagnosed with
any type of cancer, and in this case particularly lung cancer,
can be incredibly difficult for the individual. It was really
quite a revelation, you know, and it…
sort of turned my life upside down as to what I’d always known. And it was
a bit like a death, I think, to the extent that my whole life had changed and gone and suddenly
this new one was in its place. Some of the ways that people have
talked about coping with their diagnosis have included simple things
like remembering to have a cry, have a laugh. You’re still a person. You need to remember who you are. Some of the other things that
people have said are things like focusing day to day on what you’re
doing and what you can achieve. Perhaps set your limits around
what you know you can do and what you can’t do. Do those things that
you feel most comfortable doing. If you are still well enough and you
feel like working and you’re able to work, continue to do that. Some of the things that are more
challenging, perhaps they can be put away to another day. When our eldest son was killed, people would cross the road so
they didn’t have to talk to you about it.
And I wanted to talk about it and I think it’s the same with cancer. People don’t want to talk about
it because they’re shy about it. But they shouldn’t,
you should discuss it and talk to your friends. My family were more upset than I was. Because I look at it this way,
you’ve only got one life, so you’ve really got to get on with it. So I put my back to
the wall and I thought, well, I’m not going anywhere. And they were more upset, so they got
the message, they were not to worry, that I was going to be all right
and that’s how I handled that. When I was faced with the nasty,
little chore of telling the kids, it was something I
didn’t want to do because, I mean, I sort of felt for them
more that I felt for myself, I think. Because it was, you know, it was
going to be a burden for them. And I knew it was going to
be very upsetting as well. Anyway, we went around there
to my daughter’s place. And she made a cuppa, of course,
as she always does. And I said, “Yeah, I need this
and you’re going to need it, too. I’ve got a bit of news for you.” Really, it was traumatic. It’s very hard emotionally. And, you know, I think that was probably one of the things I think
has been one of the most emotional trips
that I’ve had in my life, really.