Over-Thinking, Over-Analyzing, Obsessing, & Worrying | How to Control It

Hi everyone! This video is
going to be about overthinking, overanalyzing, obsessing, and
worrying. As well as ways to control it. We all have done
these things. Thinking too much about something, anticipating an
event that causes us anxiety. It takes many forms. We can get so
much anxiety just thinking about an important event that is about
to happen. Instead of being in the moment and letting it go,
we can obsess over it adding new meaning that was never even
there. Overthinking and worrying is generally the source of many
people’s problems. It can cause the individual so much stress
and anxiety and contribute to depression and many other
things. But, why do we do this? Well, it’s usually something
negative. Thinking about something in a negative
way. Thinking about the worst possible outcome for an event.
Negativity speaks louder to us since we don’t like to be
criticized and hurt, we don’t like to make ourselves appear
inferior by exposing ourselves and showing people our
weaknesses. This is something we all fear, but showing our
weaknesses only makes us stronger. But, in our mind,
things don’t always seems that way. From personal
experience with obsessing and overanalyzing, I remember back
when I was only talking with a few people online and I
would constantly obsess over the messages I would send. I would
read it several times before sending. And, after I sent it,
I would read it over again as well. I may have notice
mistakes, perhaps spelling or grammar wise, and it would
stress me out. I would even say to myself, “I hope they
understand what I am trying to say and it doesn’t come off in a
weird way.” Because sometimes it did. I thought people would hate
me for saying things incorrectly and never talk with me again.
When they didn’t reply right away, I would be in panic
mode. You see, that is where the negativity came into place.
I had constant thoughts about accidently addressing the person
by the wrong name, or even sending the message to the wrong
person. And, even though this never happened, I obsessed
over it. It was the worst when I would send a message in the
evening and not hear a reply back that night. I would try to
go to bed and the thoughts of the message were constantly
running through my mind. I couldn’t go to sleep. Then
when I finally did go to sleep, I would wake up in the middle of
the night terrified out of my mind, thinking so much about
just a silly message. It was so bad that I had to turn my
computer back on and re-read my message countless times to
verify to myself it was alright. Reading it back and
ensuring myself it was correct, practically going letter by
letter, reduced my stress. But, no matter how many times
I checked, the anxiety and obsessive thoughts would return
and I had to verify everything was okay. I was extremely
obsessive and it annoyed me beyond belief, causing me so
much stress. It was only until the person replied back that
the stress would be lifted. Presently, I don’t really do
this anymore with messages. I have learned to control this
quite a bit. Though, I still am quite obsessive about my videos.
When writing the description and text in my videos, I check
it, practically going letter by letter. Rechecking multiple
times. Also, another odd thing I do is, people have given me
suggestions for videos, and it sounds like an interesting topic
that I would love to cover at some point. But, I put all my
videos into playlists. And some suggested video ideas don’t
really fit into these playlists, and I don’t want to put it into
the miscellaneous playlist. I then being freaking out like,
“Oh gosh! What playlist is this video going to go in?” It needs
to be organized. That needs to be sorted out prior to even
working on the video. So, if I can’t figure out what playlist
it would fit in, I cannot do the video. That’s like almost top
priority. There are plenty of other things I obsess over
as well, but perfectionism is probably at the top of the list,
and it’s stressful, annoying, yet satisfying in a way. So
anyway, we all do this sort of thing to an extent. Some more
than others. While others may not really do it much at all.
Those with obsessive-compulsive disorder have great anxiety
and this sort of thing really affects their lives. Obsessing
over things, repeatedly performing tasks, or having
repetitive thoughts. The main goal of the compulsions is to
alleviate the anxiety and stress of the obsessions. But, what
can we do about this? I’ll discuss that now. What are some ways we can
reduce excessive worrying and overthinking? Well, the first
thing I tend to look at is the importance. Is it important? As
with my example earlier, when I am obsessing over spelling,
grammar, perfectionism, is that really important? Would someone
hate me just because I made a few mistakes? If we can learn to
take a step back and realize it doesn’t really matter. We all
make mistakes, who cares what people think about us. There
will always be negative. But, where there is negative, there
is also positive. And, looking at that is generally more
important. But, negativity speaks louder to us. We are more
affected by the negative. We obsess more over the negative.
So, what I’m saying then is that many times we obsess over very
silly and minor things that are really not significant to our
lives. Which brings me to the next point, being ‘in the
moment’ and letting go of stress and anxiety. Many times when we
are anxious about something and overthinking, we are
anticipating something that is more than likely not going to
happen. Being ‘in the moment’ and ‘going with the flow,’
letting go of those attachments, can help one realize that we
live in the here and now and plan our own future. So, if
you are worrying too much about doing something wrong, then
you are filling yourself with self-doubt and anticipating
the worse. And, because of your negative frame of mind, you
can have a hard time. By being positive, having confidence,
seeing things positively, and living in the here and now,
you will see that stressing over future events is irrelevant
and unimportant. It’s all about letting go of those negative
attachments. Learning to let it go is natural, similar to
relaxing your body. For example, you body is only tense when you
make it so. When you are asleep your body is relaxed because you
are not stressed. When you are awake and you are stressed,
learning to relax is as simple as letting go. Letting go of the
stress and anxiety of not only your body, but also your mind.
Thoughts can make your body tense. This is the same exact
principle applied to worrying and overthinking things. You are
stressing yourself out and need to learn to relax by letting it
go, for it is natural to do so. Recognizing the behavior and
letting go of it. And lastly, if you are worrying so much,
perhaps even have OCD where you constantly repeat tasks or have
intrusive, repetitive thoughts, another good way of coping
with this is to find a positive outlet for your stress and
overthinking. Using your time constructively. Compulsions
are a way for you to reduce your anxiety. That is your coping
mechanism. The best thing then is to find a better way to
reduce that anxiety. Letting it out in a different way that
doesn’t cause you even more distress, would be positive. My
video on reducing anxiety may explain more in this area. But
basically it’s about learning to recognize the behavior, wanting
to change it, and making an effort to change it by
channeling it into something constructive. But, the effort
should be simple, and not cause you more stress. It
should be natural. So, in the end, overthinking,
overanalyzing, obsessing, and worrying is something we all do
in various degrees. If one can learn to let those intrusive
thoughts go, live in the moment, and find a better outlet for the
anxiety that these cause, then you can significantly reduce how
much you worry, realizing it’s not relevant or important
to anticipate such things. So, I hope this video was
helpful. Thanks for watching!